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Pain Has a Purpose: The Ask a Sadist Starter Pack
He's LA's most feared agony columnist—and possibly its biggest De Sade fan. He wants to hurt you in the ways that most help you, and it means the world to him when you let him be mean to you. It's Ask a Sadist, a long-time fixture on Emerson Dameron's Medicated Minutes. And these are a few of his greatest hits.
The boundaries between cruelty and kindness blur in this provocative exploration of ethical sadism. Our host—self-described as having "a heart of rugged gold"—dismantles conventional morality to reveal how acknowledging our darker impulses might lead to more authentic, fulfilling lives.
"I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them," our host declares, establishing a philosophical framework where inflicting pain (with enthusiastic consent) becomes an act of profound kindness. This paradox forms the foundation for addressing listeners' diverse relationship challenges, from long-distance romance to workplace sexual politics.
When a listener describes their long-distance relationship struggles, our host reframes it as "an exquisite form of torture" with potential for growth rather than merely a problem to solve. This perspective transforms relationship challenges into opportunities for deeper self-understanding and personal evolution.
The episode takes a fascinating turn examining power dynamics in the workplace when addressing a young professional labeled "too sexy" by her female boss. Rather than offering standard harassment advice, our host provides an insightful analysis of unacknowledged desires and power plays, suggesting that understanding these dynamics gives the listener unexpected leverage.
Most provocatively, the recurring claim that "rough sex can save the world" isn't mere shock value but represents a coherent philosophy arguing that our repressed desires for dominance and submission, when denied healthy expression, manifest as destructive forces in society. By acknowledging and channeling these desires in consensual contexts, we might create more honest, less harmful expressions of our fundamental nature.
"Suffer like you mean it," our host advises, suggesting that deliberate engagement with discomfort yields greater insights than avoiding pain altogether. This challenges the modern obsession with comfort, proposing instead that a meaningful life emerges from embracing the full spectrum of human experience—darkness included.
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I'm a sadist. My great joy is to inflict pain on other people, and I'm not afraid to admit it. Did you know that sadists face discrimination every day simply because of who we are? With so many people competing for the status of victimhood, we need sadists more than ever. If you really dig deep, you might find we have a lot more in common than you'd hoped. Join us in the fight for fair treatment, equal opportunities and respect for the sadist community. Be kind to the cruel. Visit AskASadistcom to learn more. Ask a Sadist.
Speaker 1:I am a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them, and it means the world to me. When you let me be mean to you, dear Sadist, hi. I've been struggling with maintaining intimacy in my long-term relationship. What can I do to reignite the spark? I was thinking about the phrase partner in crime. The people who use that are generally looking for someone to perhaps drive them to LAX. If these people got what they say they wanted, they would not be prepared. When you truly free yourself from the shackles of conventional morality, devote yourself to transgression, decadence, pleasure, the real revolution of the soul will be condemned For breaking the tacit prohibition on indulging in the freedom that they don't allow themselves to realize that they have. This will give you secrets only you and your partner really understand. I am a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I hurt people in the ways that most help them, and it means the world to me. When you let me be mean to you, I'm a sadist. I'm here to help mean to you. I'm a sadist. I'm here to help. Life's a lot simpler with a sadist on your side or looking down into those beautiful eyes that look so good, when you're doing the thing you were born to do Thriving in your personal life, with help from me in the form of my advice. I am LA's most feared agony columnist. I answer questions, dear sadist, hello, long time, first time. Maybe you can help me.
Speaker 1:I'm in a long-distance relationship and I'm struggling to maintain intimacy with my partner despite the physical distance. Do you have any advice or suggestions for keeping the spark alive and staying connected emotionally and sexually? Long distance relationships an exquisite form of torture. Each one is a little bit different and all of them are inexplicable. Why would you do that to yourself, you absolutely sick, twisted, delicious, slime creature that I want to nail to the center of the earth. I'm getting distracted. It's hot that you're doing this unpleasant, lonely, liminal here, but not here thing to yourself, where you're in a relationship, but without the physicality In the meantime. There are a lot of masochists out there and none of you will admit it. Well, some of you will, and you're my favorite people in the world. I'm not talking to you, I'm talking to everyone else who works that out, if that's what you want to call it, through these acts of self-sabotage.
Speaker 1:If you have a celibacy kink, this is a wonderful place to be. You can demand celibacy of your partner, which means that they're either going to be miserable or they're going to be cheating on you. Their loss you were an absolutely excellent saintist and they will never find another one of your caliber. If you give them that choice, they're not going to be celibate. If they theoretically were, they would not be enjoying anything. If you're into that, if that's what gets you off, I respect it.
Speaker 1:I live in a significantly transparent glass house. I admit it, I am outwardly cruel and thus can be artful and, dare I say, heartful in my practice of cruelty. That's the gift of self-awareness that I give to myself every morning upon awakening. Why am I in such a vanishing minority? Raiden Estekor once said If you sleep on the floor you don't have to worry about rolling out of bed, and yet people still sleep in beds. People still sleep. That means you're not having enough sex. If you were having good sex, you wouldn't be able to sleep. You would be awake for three days and not even notice Because you would be high on the best drugs available. They're all right in the human brain and a lot of them come from good sex. Everyone should have as much of that as feels good or feels bad in a way they enjoy which I entirely condone, especially if it's self-aware or feel bad to someone else in a way that makes you feel good. You can do a lot of that stuff.
Speaker 1:Long distance Ethical non-monogamy has a lot of rules. Come up with some rules that are gloriously disgusting. It's a good opportunity to cultivate some of your higher aspects. The goat, the Marquis de Sade, wrote most of his best work in asylums and prisons. We would not have Malcolm X if he had not gone to prison.
Speaker 1:It can be a monastery, because anything can be anything. That is the versatility of our delusion. May it be more consciously self-imposed than the pain or pleasure that we inflict. If we inflict pleasure, that is truly cruel. Nothing makes someone's head explode by getting what they really want in life. That is some next-level stuff. That is some next level stuff that is not for amateurs. I would be very careful with that. I would try to wake up to what I was doing. I don't have to worry about that. I'm wide awake, doing it right. I'm an artist of cruelty.
Speaker 1:Long distance relationships can give you time to read a lot. If you're actually going with the celibacy thing and I hear a lot of people are just jacking it now and more power to them, that's less potentially dangerous. I'll answer this question how can I keep my long-distance relationship interesting? There are many options short of swatting. Although swatting and doxing are ways to ruin your long-distance partner's reputation in their own locality, I would ramp up to swatting, especially if you don't know how long you're going to be in different cities. You can make them feel bad about their city. You can insult its sports team, or food, which is stuff that seems to genuinely upset some people who clearly deserve it, or remote-controlled toys you can either demand that your partner carry one of these in an orifice or you can convince them to do something that they already wanted to do in a way that makes them think it was their idea and have no mercy on them. This is, we must admit, despite the significant downsides, truly the golden age of surveillance tech. An excellent time to be a sadist. Dear Sadist, please help.
Speaker 1:My husband always stops breathing when we have sex. I've tried talking to him about it, gently encouraging him to breathe, just so he can enjoy himself more and I can stop worrying that he's going to burst a blood vessel or worse. But although he's normally a very communicative person, he just doesn't respond and lately just quits the lovemaking entirely. If I say something, I am not complaining. He is a terrific, attentive lover. It's just so disconcerting.
Speaker 1:He claims he's trying to not blow up in another way. I have questions, and I certainly appreciate that effort and have no idea what that's like. I feel like there's some gaps in this. Is this something I should give up? You mean trying to get him to breathe when he doesn't want to, not? Oh, here we go, not. Is this something I should give up? Not try to advise him how to do things like breathe and make love? Or is there a way to practice breathing outside of sex so that it's not so sensitive. I don't want to be a nag, especially in the bedroom. I want us both to feel free and for there to be a lovely flow of energy between us, and it feels like breathing is the most basic requirement for that. But maybe not for him Holding my breath in New York, donna. There are so many ways you could go with this.
Speaker 1:Donna, I assume that you're familiar with the practice of autoerotic asphyxiation and although I'm not quite clear on why he's doing this, it sounds like he has attempted to explain it or rationalize it some way, that he's trying not to blow up in another way. Is he delaying his orgasm? Because I know women who really enjoy making men come faster than they want to. That power gets them off and more power to them. But assuming that he's doing this because he wants to, which he must be, we do everything because we want to. We do it because it beats the alternative, the things that we don't want to do but do anyway. We're either not clear on what we want or we are doing the thing that we want to do and not allowing ourselves to enjoy it.
Speaker 1:Regardless, he is here not breathing during sex, and that is a well-known sexual practice. It can be dangerous. The great Michael Hutchence is no longer with us for that reason. We lost so much great music that way. But here's what I propose Don't allow him to breathe during sex, not the whole time, but just periodically Cut in and if he's breathing, tell him to stop, and if he breathes, shut it down, force him to hold his breath. This is kind of like if your parents ever caught you smoking and made you smoke the entire pack in front of them. The things that are forbidden become irresistible and things that are compulsory become onerous. So you can try that as an experiment. He might decide to start breathing out of rebellion, because people do turn toward the sunlight of freedom, as you observe, and love means facilitating the freedom of the loved one.
Speaker 1:Sex can mean quite the opposite, but that's not relevant here and there's so much here that's worth getting into. See if he likes that, and if he doesn't, then there's more to explore. There is something here in him to dislodge. There's some resistance to giving in to the violent relishing of pleasure. That is the life force, the force of the breath, the burst experience outside of the womb that we have of the polarity of the natural world, the in and the out, the dark and the light, life and death. He's denying himself that, and it must be for a reason.
Speaker 1:You obviously love this man. He is very lucky that you are in his life, because this could be the opportunity for a massive breakthrough If he is able to cough up whatever it is that's stuck in his throat that is preventing him from the full enjoyment of breathing, and all I can do is wish you the best, but it sounds like he needs a little bit of help and he trusts you. So I would start by seeing what happens if you don't let him breathe. Frown on his breathing during coitus Could be exciting for both of you or, as I suspect, it could lead to greater revelations which could then later result in a waterfall of pleasure like you can't possibly imagine from where you are sitting now. Such things happen when we challenge ourselves to break through our resistance to power, to pleasure, to truly stoking the fires of our inner hells.
Speaker 1:It is now time for Ask a Sadist a round of Q&A with me, your host, a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them, and it means the world to me when you, let me, be mean to you. We have reader-submitted questions and we will start with this one. Dear Sadist, I am a recently graduated 20-something who just started my new job in my dream profession. What could that be? The mind reels? The one hitch is my boss. Could that be the mind reels? The one hitch is my boss, selena. I assume not her real name, since it's in scare quotes which fail to scare me.
Speaker 1:Selena, who is around my age but on the more conservative side, she seems determined to make an uncomfortable work environment for me in the office. So the dream profession involves an office Interesting. She accuses me of being too sexy Also in scare quotes that could be scary depending on context and a distraction to my apparently very susceptible male co -workers. She asked me to stop wearing skirts and heels and has even gone so far as to call me quote sex on a stick unquote. Now I'm shaking Within earshot of coworkers in the break room. She silently drills her disapproving eyes into my back during staff meetings I have chills and makes inappropriate remarks about how my quote legs do all the work for me unquote. Any advice on how to get my boss to respect the work I am actually doing and stop insinuating that I'm the office sex kitten.
Speaker 1:Signed Cat, not a kitten. Cats are not known for being joiners or team players, not that they don't work hard. If you've watched a cat, interestingly they mostly do this when humans are not looking. But if you've seen a cat hunt in the wild or on the street, it is absolutely fascinating to watch and it merits a slow motion replay. And I feel the same way about your letter Cat, not a kitten.
Speaker 1:The power dynamics here are delicious. The great Oscar Wilde said that everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power. Power is also about sex because sex is about everything, and we have a heaping hell of sex and power, which is also about everything. Getting the respect that you feel that you deserve, 20-something, encompasses a wide range. The human brain is not fully developed until age 25. So if you're under 25, you might not deserve the respect that you think that you are owed. That's true of many of us. However, you are obviously attuned to this dance, this game of power dynamics in the workplace, in a way that I would venture to say that Selina is oblivious to, as she is wielding the cudgel of conventional morality against you, the weapon of boring brutes and dullards in order to engage in a sadomasochistic relationship. She is the one that keeps bringing up sex with regards to you. I don't know if these men are wolf whistling or if they're complaining about the distractions, or if their wives bring them lunch and complain to Selina. I would guess that this is only a problem in her troubled, addled with conventional morality excuse for a mind, and that gives you immense power.
Speaker 1:In this situation, my friend, my advice enjoy your youth, first of all, and the power that it gives you and your sexuality and the appeal that that has, because it has there's the perception that it's somehow unspoiled, and on and on and on. People want to break your innocence, which I'm sure you're perfectly capable of doing yourself, because you are already in tune with this in a remarkably astute way. So my advice to you is enjoy your power, embrace it, use it, enjoy the dance, let this goon feel important. Meanwhile, get good at your job. You say that it's your dream job. You're not going to be working in this office forever. You are going to be running. Something important is what my intuition tells me, based on your fluency in the hidden, silent language of power. So get good at your job, become indispensable, become unfireable and thus, in the end, ungovernable.
Speaker 1:But make this dullard feel powerful, let her think that she's getting to you, let her feel like she's hurting you, that will be tremendously exciting for her. If you feign subservience, if you act as though she's getting to you and she's hurting you and she's breaking you down and she's rewiring you to make you more subservient to her, and that you're developing a genuine respect for your tormentor, which I believe that you're capable of doing this without going too far with the act. She's gonna believe it. It's what she wants to believe, but does not want to think about directly. This gets her off. She is the worst kind of sadist because she has no idea. She thinks that God and conventional morality are compelling her to behave in this way and is thus rationalizing it and is thus not making peace with her own proclivities. So you can do her an immense favor by letting her think that she's getting to you and I. From the way that you write, you might have a little bit of the masochist in you and that's something I love to see and do not discourage and you can enjoy that. Enjoy the dance. My friend, my cat-like prodigy Ask a sadist lightning round answering frequently asked questions for listeners who are not perceptive enough to read between the lines.
Speaker 1:I am, as always, a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them. It means the world to me when you let me be mean to you, dear sadist, do you support the subjugation of women? Sadist, do you support the subjugation of women? Yes, I do support the subjugation of women. I hope it goes without saying that I believe it should be optional.
Speaker 1:In an open society, people have rights the right to the pursuit of pleasure, the only thing that makes this otherwise absurd existence worthwhile. That includes an array of free choices, some of which are not for everyone, some of which you might wish were not for anyone, but you don't get to make that call. Those rights include the liberty to be verbally and physically degraded, humiliated, flogged, bound, smacked around. For consenting adults who know what they're doing and know how to communicate, subjugation should be safe, legal and readily available, and I think it would be a lot more common than you might expect. People are exhausted. They're tired of working themselves to death, working harder for less. They're tired of running a race as the floor caves in under their feet. People want to give up, give in, let go, let the ecstasy happen. I obviously have a dog in this fight. I also know that there's a market for my services and everyone would be a lot happier if we could put more of our libidinal energy where it belongs Rough sex can save the world.
Speaker 1:If we keep sublimating our sadism and masochism into wars, arguments, other non-sexy forms of cruelty, that will be the end of the species. Let's get out of the tanks, out of the boardrooms and into the dungeons. I support the subjugation of women and I believe that you should too. Sadist, masochist. We're run-of-the-mill pervert, like everyone else. Ask a sadist A round of Q&A with me, la's most feared agony columnist, a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them, and it means the world to me. You, let me be mean to you, dear sadist. I started seeing my new boyfriend a month ago. It may just be the afterglow talking, but I really like like this guy. Our sex has been great, if a little bland for my tastes, and we're super compatible. Recently he told me that his lifelong dream is to have sex and then get severely beaten by the partner. He wants me to do the honors. I'm thrilled that we're finally getting kinky up in here.
Speaker 1:There's an anecdote from the making of one of the Rocky movies, possibly apocryphal but true enough to support my thesis. Sylvester Stallone asked Dolph Lundgren to really hit him. Dolph Lundgren is a professional fighter. Stallone is an actor, quite an interesting one. The stories behind the making of First Blood are fascinating. Stallone was offered a princely sum for the script for that film and said that he would not sell the script unless he was going to star in it, put his foot down, turned down tons of money. He's now internationally known as an actor. In a sense, lundgren beats up people for a living and he gave Sly what he wanted. Sly was the main person on that film and he promptly put him in the hospital for a couple of days because Estalone didn't know what he was signing up for.
Speaker 1:Your boyfriend wants you to beat him up. I'm flattered that you came to me to get more information about that. However, if you really were interested in beating people, surely you would notice that there are a lot of martial arts academies, boxing gyms, institutions dedicated to teaching the art of giving someone the business. You can learn how to beat someone up and not really hurt them or not do severe damage. You can learn these things in kink dungeons. They have classes taught by experts. Some of the doms can be rather aggressive in their pedagogy, but what do you expect? You can still learn to beat someone. That sort of thing in the kink sphere is very high level. You have to go through a lot of other stuff to get there Basic fundamentals of understanding consent and all the complexities of engaging with these sort of practices in an intentional way, which is kind of revolutionary.
Speaker 1:It is easy to be a sadist in this country if you are dishonest about it, and it's nearly effortless, and in fact this society is very much optimized for sadism. As long as you can lie to yourself, it's not a lie if you believe it. That way you don't have to deal with the cognitive dissonance of being a cop or a dentist or a bill collector and also supporting the farce of conventional morality. You can have it both ways, as long as you don't know that you're having it both ways. It's a cruel world but so much of it is sublimated which I think is so dangerous, and I think that rough sex can save the world.
Speaker 1:What I'm getting at here. You've been seeing this man for a month. He's lucky to have found someone who is enthusiastic about this, to the point where they didn't ask him why or maybe you did and his answer was acceptable. But if you didn't, that's remarkable and noteworthy and I would think about why you want to beat up this man If it's not on your yes list. If it's a maybe, I would consider doubling up, finding something on his maybe list that's on your yes list and seeing if he wants to do that.
Speaker 1:Beating someone up without doing damage is a serious undertaking. I could not describe myself as an amateur in that field at this point, in the pejorative sense that the term is usually intended. However, you could pay me a billion dollars a year to inflict pain on people and I would still be in it for the love of the game, and you have to love it to get good at it. It takes a long time. It takes a lot of practice. It's not the kind of thing that you can practice in the skate park on Venice Beach, unless you're very slick about it. It's a calling, almost. You have to be devoted to cruelty to become an artist and a scientist in that field, and I don't get the sense that you are doing this for your own pleasure, which is the only thing that life is about. It's empty outside of that. But all creatures seek out pleasure. Plants turn toward the sun and if you want to beat them up, I would learn how to do that through the proper channels. The help is available. It comes in many different flavors. You could find the one that's right for you and get good at it and learn the particulars of kink in this sort of pursuit.
Speaker 1:I would not describe myself as a dom. I don't want to run anyone else's life. That sounds like an inconvenience. The women I typically engage with can very much run their own lives. They're in control, high status, and that's the problem. They have a lot of responsibility. People depend on them. That is exhausting and they come to me to shrug that off for a while because sex is where people hide things.
Speaker 1:Our sexuality in many ways is a photo negative of the image we present to the world. Unless we've worked very hard to come to terms with it and forget that we forgot to be honest with ourselves about what gets us off. I would wager to say the modal person never gets that. Your boyfriend wants you to be him up. You don't want to let him down. If that's the only reason you're doing this, that may be a call to self-inquiry. I would not be entirely at ease giving information about how to do this to someone whose motives are as obscure as yours. Four months is not a long time. There's obviously a lot you don't know about this guy. I don't say this a lot, but proceed with caution, dear sadist.
Speaker 1:I've discovered my partner watches a lot of porn and it's making me uncomfortable. How do I approach this conversation without shaming them and find a middle ground that works for both of us? First of all, eliminate the possibility that your partner wants to be shamed, which is a significant one. Since the saturation of broadband internet, we've been deluged with all forms of pornography, much of it violent and degrading. I'm not interested. Interested by and large. None of it will ever come close to the libertine, decadence, transgression, violence, mutual degradation that characterize my own sex life.
Speaker 1:Most people who prefer the experience of jacking it to porn over actual sexual intimacy, congress, other kinds of torture, are afraid. They view the Sex Act on some level as a performance. They are afraid of underperforming, disappointing you, letting you down, which in turn indicates a fear, a desire and intimacy. Sex is power. Power is violence. Sex and death are intertwined. Sex is everything, the very force of creation itself. Sex and death are intertwined. Sex is everything, the very force of creation itself, profound level at which we can connect with another human and transcend this horror show house of mirrors in which we live.
Speaker 1:Porn, by contrast, is sex as professional wrestling for an audience of unsatisfied, resentful men. It has nothing to do with real sex. Any mind that links the two is going to have problems in both areas. It is fundamentally confusing fantasy and reality, confusing a ridiculous fantasy with part of reality that is absolutely essential to the human experience. An acquaintance of mine, a bachelor in his mid-40s, claims to be highly successful on Tinder. His mid-forties claims to be highly successful on Tinder almost entirely with younger women in their early to mid-twenties who, he says, often confided him that they don't date men their own age because their brains are soaked with porn they want to do anal. Pile drivers on the first date, turn off the porn, throw out your cum-encrusted security blanket. Death is certain. Life is optional. Live, damn you, bring yourself to life or I'll do it for you.
Speaker 1:This has been Ask a Sadist Ask a Sadist, dot com, a production of Emerson Dameron's Medicated Minutes Medicated dash minutes, dot com, in turn itself a production of K-Chung K-chung radioorg. I'm a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I hurt people in the ways that most help them. It means the world to me to be mean to you. My art form is pain. I don't suffer for my art. I outsource the suffering. Pleasure is the law, passion is the rocket. In order to free your mind, you must lose your mind by throwing your body into decadent, dionysian depravity. Up next, it is time for a segment that we call Ask a Sadist, which is a round of Q&A with me, your host Emerson Dameron, a sadist with a heart of rugged gold. I want to hurt you in the ways that help you most, only by the most exquisitely enthusiastic consent, that's right. You have to beg for it, but I will field your burning, itching, lacerating questions here on Ask a Sadist, on Emerson Dameron's Medicaid in Minutes.
Speaker 1:Dear Sadist, what does success mean to you? Success to me is not a state of being, it's not a goal, it's not somewhere you are, it's not somewhere you have to get to. Success is a series of actions and choices culminating in a deliberate decision to concentrate the rays of my cruelty and my carnal passions through a magnifying glass. Success is a process of elimination. It's the rejection of insipid moralism and the decision to follow your depraved and decadent passions wherever they may lead, to be heedless of all that contradicts pleasure's divine laws that are inscribed in your DNA. You know their songs by heart. It's pleasure's divine laws that are inscribed in your DNA. You know their songs by heart. It's just a process of forgetting all of the distractions from the sound and rhythm and melody of that beautiful music.
Speaker 1:Dear sadist, if you're so smart, why aren't you happy? I don't think we know each other. Anonymous interlocutor, you certainly don't know me. It's fair to say that I might be operating at a level of sophistication that is unfamiliar to you and that you do not fully understand. In my experience, the smarter I get, the more I hone my senses and incorporate integrate wisdom that I've gathered about the world, the more excited and libertine my accursed mind becomes. And if you want what I have, if you're ready to cross that Rubicon, it openly. And yet I observe you behave in ways that are pretty much guaranteed to make you suffer. If you insist on suffering and taking actions that you know are going to mire your ass in misery and walking right into that meat grinder day after day. All I ask is that you suffer like you mean it, suffer on purpose, suffer with intent in the ways that bring you closer to accomplishing whatever liberation it is that you seek from the practice of suffering. Dear sadist, would you rather see the future or change the past? If your past is a place of unhappy memories, which does apply to mine, let those bad feelings fuel your frustration and drive you forward into a decadent and liberated future. The future is open. Your duty is to defile it open. Your duty is to defile it, and if you don't know your place or where you fit in or belong, I will find it for you and I will put you there.
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Speaker 1:It is now time once again for Ask a Sadist, a round of Q&A with me, your host, well-known throughout the Los Angeles metropolitan area as a sadist with a heart of rugged gold, choker, flogger, penetrator and occasional perforator of orifices, pending the most exquisitely enthusiastic consent. That's right. It's not enough to take it and like it, you have to beg for it and you have to surprise me. I like surprises. I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them, and it means the world to me. When you let me be mean to you. Let's get into this, dear Sadist.
Speaker 1:I recently turned 40. The party was some of the most fun I've ever had. I was surprised at how many people showed up to support me and I fully expected to enter a personal renaissance period. Three months later, I feel a sense of disappointment and encroaching dread. My demanding career, once my highest priority, has stalled out. I feel disconnected from my husband and two young daughters. I'm having mysterious health complaints. I need a big change. What do you suggest? What do you suggest?
Speaker 1:It sounds as though you have spent a lot of time under the yoke of insipid moralists and smarmy hypocrites. You allude to this high-pressure career that you're involved with. And if that were just a route to other things, such as debauchery, invitations to orgies involving blood, play, fire, play, etc. Orgies involving blood play, fire play, etc. I would understand, but by attaching your identity to the career itself, you have put yourself in a bind. You have no idea what you want, what you really enjoy, and you're not likely to get it by accident. I would be curious about what happened at your 40th birthday party, very curious about that. You say that's some of the most fun that you've ever had in your life. Could have used more details on that, very, very curious. I bet there are clues in there somewhere, and the fact that you didn't reveal any details or send photographic evidence leads me to believe that if you think back and parse what was so pleasurable about that experience, you may have some clues about the path that you want to take.
Speaker 1:As you make this transition, which I certainly applaud, you know that your passions are already having their way with you. They cannot be kept at bay. Law that we obey our decadent whimsy, our taste for all of the various bodily fluids consumed in the most disgraceful ways in debauched environments. That is what nature wants, that is what we gravitate to, that is the law, and it affects all of us, even more so if we push it out to focus on a career or on attempting to win the esteem of other people or to look good in some public eye that we perceive that no one else cares about. Perhaps your passions have brought you to this impasse. They may have forced your hand in order to free you and, by seeking my counsel, perhaps you are making a move to do a little bit more of what you really like.
Speaker 1:Whatever it was that was going on in the coat room at your 40th, whatever it was that was going on in the coat room at your 40th. Or maybe you're stuck because part of you enjoys it. Maybe there is a part of you that is getting off on this sick freak that you are deep inside. I would encourage you to test that hypothesis, to sit with the feeling of stuckness, feel into the details, into the fine grain of the experience. What does it really feel like to be stuck? Is there excitement or pleasure in there? Perhaps interpreted as fear or a sense of overwhelm? Sit with that, maybe give it half an hour, see what happens. If you don't start feeling a little bit frisky, then you can cross that off the list and go back to your search for the debauchery that nature is driving you toward through the brutal force of your carnal passions. I believe in you, I care about you in my way and I wish you luck in that journey.
Speaker 1:It's time for Ask a Sadist a question and answer segment with me, a sadist with a heart of gold. I like to hurt people. I've always wanted to hurt people. I used to feel bad about it, but that didn't feel very good with my dark side, for I have discovered there is more virtue in my cruelty than there is in your hypocrisy, false piety and anything else that you do in your tragic lack of imagination. Today's question, dear sadist, what kink or fetish would you absolutely refuse to try if your partner suggested, and why?
Speaker 1:This is not Ask a Sadist anything. I'm here to give you advice, to dispense wisdom on how to live your life, and it's not me assuming that I'm somehow in a superior position to you to do life coaching. In a superior position to you to do life coaching, it is that you find me so interesting that you ask these personal questions because you want to know me on some personal level, when what you should do having the opportunity to receive my counsel is you ask something that would not go toward fostering a parasocial relationship. That is only going to waste time that you could be spending out and about exploring your passionate depravity. You should be asking me for my thoughts on how to live your life and what kinks and fetishes you should try or refuse to try. I won't say you're wasting my time. You are wasting your own. I have a feeling this is going to be used as some kind of bonus content, but now that I'm in a mood, I will answer this question because I feel primed to treat it with the seriousness and sincerity that it deserves.
Speaker 1:So let's parse this what kink or fetish would you absolutely refuse to try? Ever? Forever, as they say, is a mighty long time. We don't know all of the experiences that we're going to experience. Some of us live forever in some sense. Others never live in another sense. Whatever applies to you, I hope that you spend the time suffering, suffering well, suffering better. Learn to suffer, understand why you suffer and how you suffer, and suffer like you mean it. I wish you nothing but suffering, because I care about you. It means the world to me when you let me be mean to you, but since you asked me, I won't say that there's anything I would never try. There are not many things that I haven't tried.
Speaker 1:It's been said that in order to be a good sadist one should experience masochism. I don't necessarily think that's the case, but I'm not going to get into everything that I've ever done. I will readily admit that I have thrown myself into the flames of romantic love. I knew that it was ill-advised and yet everything I did to stifle that urge to quench those flames only made them more powerful. And I did give in and it went well. It went badly, sometimes simultaneously. I won't say that it ended well. We both could have handled it better.
Speaker 1:I was inspired at that point to explore my decadent libertine passions. I went out on the town, I painted the town red and gold, I ripped into it. I had the summer of my life and I discovered who I was. It did not make the pain go away, but I felt much better about it when I was able to share it with others. And I think that no matter what kink or fetish you try, you should do it in a spirit of indulging fully in your own animal passions, even the self-destructive ones. Animal passions, even the self-destructive ones, within reasonable limits. Excess in moderation. Don't tear yourself apart If you have that kind of cruelty that it takes to be a pay pig or whatever it is that actually destroys your life not just the pain that you get off on, but the pain that tears you down and wears through your bank account, wears out your mental and physical health, sends you into an early grave and hurts everyone around you by proxy. If you have the kind of cruelty that it takes to inflict that on yourself, it's rather shallow of you to keep that for yourself and not share it. So no, I don't get financial domination. I am kink-friendly. I'm very sex positive. I'm a positive person. That's why I do this.
Speaker 1:I will take issue with another part of the question. What would you absolutely refuse to try if your partner suggested it? I don't have partners. I am a deeply kind person and I think you know this. You see yourself in me and you know the strength of my heart. And any animosity, any desire that you have to knock me down, to put me in chains, to take away my toys, comes from insecurity about how the parts of yourself that you see in me because you know that I'm deeply good and honest and I reflect the best in humanity that has no God. It's certainly not the sort of imbecilic God. That would rule in the manner that some of you think your God does, I'm not going to get into that, I don't have partners. I god does, I'm not going to get into that, I don't have partners. I'm kind, I'm not nice, I'm not fair. I'm honest with you about that. But I'm on top, you're on the bottom. That much should be obvious. This has been Ask a Sadist you.
